A quick note for those who dont know what SSD means sorry forget not everyone from the usa here its disability its pay you get from the government and it depends on how much you worked etc on how much you get but anyway its never alot you make bills about it

What I am doing is making her figure it out right now acaually she has no choice I have the flu and not what you would call very nice when im ill so i told her yesterday you know what needs done do it and she did to my surprize missed a few things MINOR but ill tell her about it and then hopefully she will catch on if not yah shes gone and to the next one
I think the problem is with the company not training them the way they should they send these women over and they have no clue what to do and its up to us to train them on how to do things which I dont like they should have a supervisor come with them go over what we need and expect and then cut her loose to do the work its a sloopy comoany BUT ITS FREE TO US which I couldnt pay for a housekeeper right now
I pay to have a lifeline (life line is a button they wear and if anything happens they push it and right away someone is call like medical etc) and have meals brought in for Mom for her 3 days a week she satrted these while I was on vacation and wasn't eating right but theses she eats right up so I figure keep them coming at least I know she will eat these and its 3 days a week I dont have to cook a big meal. But it cost around 100.00 a month for both I know not much but when you only bring in so much im on SSD its alot so extras are not a thing around here we have to much of
I do have to say I do take a small amount each month for me and put it away in a vacation fund because if i dont get out of here once a year Ill go insane
Hopefully things will settle down once she finally gets the hang of things and I can start getting out of her once a day while she is here and do what needs done appointments shopping etc.....
Hloidays on the way so that will be interesting but should go ok last year she had alshemers and we didnt know it she showed signs but we didnt know what they where really so this year I know I will be doing everything BUT always a BUT I can do it at a pace Im happy with and everything will be done last year it was shoved on me at the last and nothing got done but what had to be
Im done blabbering
Love ta all
Greg

Huggs to you Greg. Take a deep breath and inhale the scent of the sea in the air. Let it cleanse you, then release your frustration and your pain.
The single most important thing I’ve learned in the last several years is that, while I can’t control all of the situations which occur in my life, I can control the way I can respond to them. It’s all about the choices we make. While I can’t usually take the time to explore ALL the options I have to choose from when I’m facing a stressfull situation, if I choose the path that does the least amount chaos or damage then I can defuse the situation and avoid both the external conflict, and the distress it causes to my own spirit.
If you’re not happy with your Mom’s caregiver—for any reason, get a different one. You might want to consider writing a manual which covers duties, and how your Mom likes them done. In it you can prepare the caregiver for specific challenges she’s likely to face, and the best way of dealing with them. Kind of like how the “Moms” on Wife-Swap do for the “new” mom. I’d interview several and choose someone whose worked with Alzhimer pat ients before.
I once cared for an elderly stroke victim who was insistant that not only must everything be in its place, but that it be positioned “just SO”. Because I took the time to listen to her and get to know her as a person, not a patient, I was seldom the recipient of her wicked sharp, poison tipped toung.
With that, I’m all out of advise. I need to go get some wood for a fire—even tho’ we’re BBQing tonight. Be kind to yourself my friend.

I get a nurse 2 times a week she just checks her over and setups the med boxes and I get a caretaker mon-fri to get her in the shower and help clean what i cant help with its something shes a nice girl but she needs to learn that coming over to help doesnt mean saying Greg what do I do with this and that and just do it and learn

Don't have ago at urself Greg, it's quite normal to be stressed in this situation ~ u need more help
Take care

I should change the title to surviving Greg huh

My problem is right now I can already see my attitude changing and not for the good Im getting very short with people I done mean to but with all thats on my mind I don't have time for people right now thats don't know there job
The one is the housekeeper which should know what to do by now and without me holding her hand every step .
One of the reasons we got her is so I could get things done I need to do outside the house and when Im getting 2 to 3 phone calls a day (shes only there 2 hrs a day I just blow up after a while and say figure it out for yourself once will yah)
And with Mom not wanting to get up and then getting pissed at me bacause i didnt wake her up ( she doesnt remember you ask her to get up with alot of other things)
And then here comes Greg I get mad and raise my voice and then feel bad I did I hate being a asshole I really do I sit there after just so mad at me and Its like im in a middle that wont ever end.
OK I yelled for a while I just need a place to throw this people so sorry but it cant stay in me or ill end up in a white jacket that ties in the back
Love to my online family
Greg

Bless u my dear friend ~ i can almost feel ur pain
Do u have nurses who can help u out or maybe put her in a home
We have this in the UK

Work I can't even begin to understand what you must be going through. My thoughts and prayers will be with you. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ will never fail you.

Life is hard! And if you are the caregiver for your mother you are experiencing it first hand. Alzheimers is terrible in that it takes the mind. Do the best you can for your mother, that is really all you can do.